Lo’s Prose
In these regular blog posts, I will share musings, insight, and strategies to help you set boundaries, speak up for your needs, and create healthy relationships with others in your life. Learn to show up for yourself with curiosity, compassion, and kindness as you become your own cheerleader, best friend, and most loving parent!
Happy Spring!
Happy Spring! March is often the time when our thoughts shift toward more sunshine, longer days, birds singing, and flowers blooming. After a long winter of staying indoors, turning inward for reflection, and focusing on warmth and comfort, we are often excited to return to the outside world with renewed energy, joy, and purpose. We engage in spring cleaning at home, doing extra projects to help our living spaces feel fresh and rejuvenated. I’d also like to invite you to do an internal spring cleaning to clear the clutter in your mind and realign with your values and goals.
Reconnecting with Self: Stepping Into Your Power
So often in this world, we are encouraged to push down our feelings, wants, and needs so that we don’t take up too much space or inconvenience anyone. We worry that if we embody our true self, we won’t be accepted or fit in with others. They may judge, criticize, dislike, or even outright reject us. These fears lead us to abandon ourselves and become chameleons who blend in and adapt simply to please others. We play small, conform, and eventually lose touch with who we are, how we feel, and what we want and need. This lack of identity can happen slowly over time without us even realizing it. This year, join me in re-connecting with your authentic self, learning to tap into your unique power and make a contribution in this world. We all have a special purpose and reason for existence on this planet, and it is our duty to share it with the world. We need the authentic YOU - you matter!
New Year Reflections
As this year draws to a close, I want to take a moment to celebrate YOU. Why you ask? Because you have done incredible things throughout this past year - each and every one of you. Big things, little things, hard things, easy things, surprising things, and things that have led you to being the amazing person that you are in this moment now. I’m very proud of you and have truly enjoyed being part of your journey throughout the past year. And you should be proud of you too! To help you tune into and recognize your success, I’d encourage you to look over these journal prompts and consider them. If you do nothing else, I invite you to identify 2-3 things that you did well this year or that you’re proud of – doesn’t matter if they are big or small. They are all an important part of our journey and they’re all worth celebrating. Happy New Year!
Welcome to the Holiday Season!
While the winter and holiday season can be a time of joy and excitement, it can also be a source of stress, overwhelm, and exhaustion for many. The pressure to please and make everyone happy can be compounded by our own grief and loss, nostalgia for past memories, health issues, and concerns about the uncertainty of the world right now.
Despite the pressures, I strongly encourage you to prioritize your wellbeing over the holidays, especially if you are someone who tends to neglect yourself, push through, and over-function at this time of year. Here are some questions to reflect upon as we dive into this busy time of year and prepare for 2024.
Fall Journal Prompts
While the high temperatures here in Pennsylvania do not feel like fall is on its way, I wanted to provide you with some ideas to consider because I will be on maternity leave within the next week.
As we say goodbye to summer and transition into fall, it can be a perfect time to reflect on the upcoming season. I see autumn as a time to take inventory of what needs to "fall away." Just as the leaves on the trees naturally change color and fall to the ground every year without fail, we can use this time to reflect on what needs to change in our lives and what needs to fall away completely as well. I've experienced that being in tune with the cycles of the seasons provides great value and harmony so I'd encourage you to explore what this new season may be offering to you as well. Here are some journaling prompts that I use - consider actual things in your life like an object or a relationship as well as things like habits, patterns, thoughts, beliefs, etc. Feel free to grab a cup of hot tea, snuggle with a cozy blanket, and consider some of these questions either in your head or by writing your thoughts down.
Summer Journal Prompts
Because the summer often represents the halfway point in the year, it can be a great opportunity to check in with ourselves, evaluate progress toward our goals, and make any adjustments or additions as needed to meet our current circumstances. I encourage you to be curious, open-minded, and compassionate as you do this internal work rather than allowing that judgmental or harsh inner critic to take over. Celebrate your successes (no matter how small) and identify any shifts that you want to make as the second half of the year unfolds. Here are some journal prompts to consider as part of this reflection process. I hope you find them helpful!
Embracing an Authentic Life
As I reflect on how codependent tendencies show up in my daily life, I notice that sharing my full authentic self with others can still be a challenge for me. I have a tendency to keep the focus off myself, asking others questions about themselves and not providing many details about what is happening in my own life. I am so accustomed to caring what others think of me and wanting to present as the person who “has it all together,” especially because I am a mental health provider. In truth, no one has it together 24/7 because that is not realistic for humans going through the ups-and-downs of daily life. And I know that deep, genuine, and meaningful social connection occurs when we are vulnerable with one another. That is how we relate to others and feel less alone in this world.
Celebrating Mothers
As Mother’s Day approaches, I wanted to take this opportunity to celebrate ALL types of maternal relationships - moms, step moms, chosen moms, grandmothers, new moms, adoptive moms, grieving moms, pet moms, single moms, those people who miss their mothers, those with a painful and/or strained relationship with their mom, and those longing to be a mom themselves. I truly honor, respect, and celebrate all of you! I know this holiday can bring up a lot of intense, overwhelming, and even unexpected emotions for people. No matter your situation, please be sure to treat yourself with extra kindness, compassion, and love as Sunday approaches. YOU deserve it that day and everyday!
Fear of Abandonment
When I share about overcoming codependency, people pleasing, and perfectionism, people often respond with concerns that making these changes will lead to them being disliked, rejected, and even abandoned. If I ask my partner for what I need, they might leave me. If I don’t agree to pick up a shift for my coworker, they might not want to be friends anymore. If I make a decision that my family doesn’t like, they may criticize and reject me.
Spring Journal Prompts
While spring may seem far away for those of us living in the Northeast, March is often the time when our thoughts shift toward more sunshine, longer days, birds singing, and flowers blooming. After a long winter of staying indoors, turning inward for reflection, and focusing on warmth and comfort, we are often excited to return to the outside world with renewed energy, joy, and purpose. We engage in spring cleaning at home, doing extra projects to help our living spaces feel fresh and rejuvenated. I’d also like to invite you to do an internal spring cleaning to clear the clutter in your mind and realign with your values and goals.
Cultivating Acceptance
In the past, I spent a lot of time dwelling on what I wished could be and how I thought things should be. In struggling to acknowledge and accept what is, I often sacrificed my peace and presence in favor of resistance and future-tripping. The most obvious example came in my relationships with others. I often saw the potential in a person or situation, choosing to focus on how things could change for the better. While being forward-thinking can be beneficial in some ways, it also prevents us from realizing the truth of what is currently in front of us. I gave away a lot of my power because I was trying to control things that I could not.
End of Year Reflection
As this year draws to a close, I want to take a moment to celebrate YOU. Why you ask? Because you have done incredible things throughout this past year. Big things, little things, hard things, easy things, surprising things, and things that have led you to being the amazing person that you are in this moment now. I’m proud of you and have truly enjoyed being part of your journey throughout the past year. And you should be proud of you too! To help you tune into and recognize your success, I’d encourage you to look over these journal prompts and consider them. If you do nothing else, I invite you to identify 2-3 things that you did well this year or that you’re proud of – doesn’t matter if they are big or small. They are all an important part of our journey and they’re all worth celebrating. Happy New Year!
Holiday Survival Guide
The holiday season and end of the calendar year can bring with it a lot of joy, fun, excitement, and tradition. However, it can also be a time of stress, overwhelm, and exhaustion, especially for those of us who are parents and caregivers. We often believe we need to show up at every event, clean and decorate our homes, bake treats, cook big meals, buy a lot of gifts, and have endless energy and enthusiasm. My goal today is to normalize the presence and intensity of these overwhelming emotions AND share some tips on how to take care of yourself in these next few weeks (and beyond!).
Holiday Reflections
While the winter and holiday season can be a time of joy and excitement, it can also be a source of stress, overwhelm, and exhaustion for many. The pressure to please and make everyone happy can be compounded by our own grief and loss, nostalgia for past memories, health issues, and concerns about the uncertainty of the world right now.
Despite the pressures, I strongly encourage you to prioritize your wellbeing over the holidays, especially if you are someone who tends to neglect yourself, push through, and over-function at this time of year. Here are some questions to reflect upon as we dive into the busy month of December and finish out 2022.
Welcome to Fall!
Fall has arrived....at least for those of us in the Northern Hemisphere :) Here in Pennsylvania, the leaves are starting to change, it’s getting darker earlier in the evening, and there is a chill in the air. I like to periodically utilize journal prompts for reflection, especially when a change in seasons occurs. Regardless of where you're located, it can be helpful to check in with ourselves every so often, examining how far we've come and where we'd like to go moving forward.
Managing Our Relationship Expectations
Explore the ways in which your relationship expectations may be leading you to feel hurt, stuck, angry, and resentful. And discover how to manage your expectations to create satisfying, fulfilling relationships with others in all parts of life. Read on for more details!
How to Regulate Your Nervous System
Learn specific ways to regulate your nervous system and create emotional safety from within through somatic practices. It is possible to increase your vagal tone through consistent vagus nerve stimulation, which will allow you to manage stress when it occurs. Read on for more details!
Personalization: Challenging the Codependent Thought Error
Learn to challenge the common codependent thought error of personalization to stop taking things personally, over-apologizing, and assuming responsibility for things that are out of your control.
Befriending Your Inner Critic
A unique way to silence your inner critic voice with gentleness and compassion.